5 Golden Rules for Saving Marriage

Is your relationship on the rocks? Perhaps you have even discussed divorce?

It’s never to late to try and get your love back. Here are the golden rules for saving marriages.

Rule 1: Create an atmosphere. It’s the little things that can turn a happy house into a negative environment. Do you best to avoid disapproving looks and flippant comments instead making sure there’s lots of positive chat, smiles, winks and more. Think back to the 'old atmosphere' you used to have in the house and try to recreate it. If the house has a happy, upbeat feel about it then you are both likely to pick up on that.


Rule 2: Look for the best in each other. Make an effort to see positive qualities in your partner rather than always taking a critical approach. Remember all those things you found attractive and make a point of looking for them. By getting in touch with your softer side you can recreate those old, loving feelings again.


Rule 3: Dress to impress! Wear clothes your partner likes. But don’t just stop on the outside, make an effort to show your partner all those character traits you know they find attractive. Trigger all the old feelings by reminding them what they had and still have.


Rule 4: From small beginnings: introduce the concept that perhaps divorce is not right for you both; that maybe you have something worth saving. Don’t push it, but definitely get the idea across that rekindling your romance could be on the cards.


Rule 5: Build on the foundations. Once the idea of saving your marriage is on the table you can build from that. It’s going to take a lot of time, listening and talking but most importantly, it’s going to take you addressing those thorny issues that threaten your marriage.

If your marriage is in crisis it’s never too late to take action. Even if just one of you wants to save your marriage you can find resources that enable you to start again.

Marriage and Finance: The Golden Rules

Money is one of those hot topics that can very easily come between couples. It might be a clash of attitudes and values or it could be stress caused by lack of funds.

Do You Share the Same Attitude to Money?

Perhaps each partner has a different approach to finances. Maybe one is a spender and the other a saver. Whatever the cause of friction, couples that discuss and agree upon a joint approach to money will find that they argue less.

Top Tips for Managing Money in Marriage

Here are some rules that will help you to determine a joint approach to your finances.

1.       Discuss money early on:  How much money do you earn together? What are your overheads? Will you spend or save any excess? Determine your individual attitudes to finance; think about short, medium and long term goals.

2.       Set your budget: Agree on who is going to manage the bills and try to make sure that each of you still has some budget to use independently. One partner shouldn’t need to come to the other to ask for money – both should feel financially independent as far as the joint finances allow.

3.      Make a financial plan: Agree on a monthly saving plan and what it is that you want to save for.

4.       Adjust your plan: Life is full of twists and turns. Should unemployment or debt become an issue, revise your financial plan to adequately take account of and tackle the situation you are in. Even if the figures don’t add up, you need to be aware of this and make changes such as cutting back in one area, taking out a loan, getting financial help and so on.

5.       Tackle problems: Not identifying financial problems or reacting to them simply compounds the problem and piles stress on your marriage. Working on financial problems together and taking steps to deal with and resolve these can actually strengthen your marriage and demonstrate the strong unit that you have become.

If your marriage is experiencing problems and you want tips on how to save your marriage, don’t delay; take action today. 

Don’t Let the TV Wreck Your Marriage

We all love a bit of escapism and chilling out in front of the TV is a great way to unwind. However, did you know that this seemingly innocent habit can inadvertently become a threat to your marriage?

It’s Good to Talk

It’s very easy to use your TV time as an avoidance tactic – perhaps deterring difficult conversations. While this may initially prevent conflict in the short term, problems that aren’t aired tend to fester and blow up later.

Make sure that you and your spouse find the time to speak to each other and find out what’s happening in each other’s lives. Are they feeling overloaded? Is there anything either of you can do for each other? Perhaps just being a listening ear is enough?

Communication is Key

Good communication is at the heart of every successful marriage.

If you are spending more time watching TV than talking to your partner then try to make a little more time for them. Don’t let everyday stresses and strains grow into resentments through lack of discussion.

Couples that talk are more likely to face life’s challenges with a united front. Instilling good communication habits could improve your marriage. 

Find out more tips to save your marriage today. 

It’s Not Rocket Science!

Sometimes we get bogged down in life’s day to day stresses and strains. Our conversations become mundane and we can have a tendency to moan or to discuss problems and issues.

It goes without saying that these conversations are not intimate, interesting or building your relationship with your spouse. If you want to improve your failing marriage take our advice.

Try to find time to take a trip down memory lane now and again. Reminisce about old times, remind your partner about a romantic or funny memory.

Shared memories bring back all the emotion of the time and are a great way to rekindle a stale relationship. Keep positive, cling on to happier times and regularly remind yourselves about the glue that got you together and can keep you together.

Life is full of shared experiences, both good and bad, but how much more positive to fill your time dwelling on the better times than focusing on problems.

Our Step by Step Approach

All marriages go through rough patches but some can go on a downward spiral. Reversing the trend may take time, tactics and lots of effort but it is never to late to stop a divorce.

This blog highlights the ways that you can get your love back.

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